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Are You Really Listening?

Are You Really Listening?

Keys to Successful Communication 

Author: Mary E. Siegel

Author: Paul J. Donoghue

Price: $16.95

Format: Paperback

Pages: 224

Trim size: 5.5 x 8.5 inches

ISBN: 978-1-893732-88-9

Imprint: Sorin Books

On-sale date: July 1, 2005

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Listening is an essential skill worth every effort to learn and to master. Listening takes us out of our tendency toward self-absorption and self-protection. It opens us to the world around us and to the persons who matter most to us. When we listen, we learn, we grow, and we are nourished.

Why do we often feel cut off when speaking to the people closest to us? What is it that keeps so many of us from really listening? Practicing psychotherapists, Donoghue and Siegel answer these questions and more in this thoughtful, witty, and helpful look at the reasons why people don't listen. Filled with vivid examples that clearly demonstrate easy-to-learn listening techniques, Are You Really Listening? is a guide to the secrets and joys of listening and being listened to.


"One of the better mousetraps."

"As an antidote to 'I can't hear you!' the authors ask 'Are you really listening?' The book provides useful clues and tested strategies that help us better relate to families, partners, friends, coworkers, clients, and associates. One of the better mousetraps.

Rabbi Barry A. Kenter. Greenburgh Hebrew Center
Dobbs Ferry, New York

"Required reading."

"Required reading for any professional. In practicing medicine, the coin of the realm is trust. Techniques of nonjudgmental active listening are critical to its genesis. Donoghue and Siegel facilitate its acquisition by clear pertinent examples drawn from their own rich experience."

Nicholas Kopeloff, M.D.


"Drs. Donoghue and Siegel present clear and well-illustrated suggestions for active listening and sensitive responding to the thoughts expressed by others in a user-friendly format helpful to all who value and seek to enhance their interpersonal relationships."

Donna MacNeill Heffner, Certified School Psychologist

"A first-class approach."

"Thoughtfully treats one of the most essential, but often overlooked, social and relationship skills. From helping us develop a better ear for listening to teaching us how to constructively respond, the authors have created a first-class approach to improving our ability to listen, and to be active relationship partners."

Carter McClelland, Chairman, Banc of America Securities

"A great learning experience."

Reading Paul Donoghue and Mary Siegels book "Are You Really Listening?" was a great learning experience for me. These two experienced therapists make listening sound simple. I appreciated the wealth of knowledge and experience that the authors showed and I loved their down-to-earth examples. They convinced me that listening well to others is learning to love better. This is a book you will enjoy reading and love to keep.

Sister Kathleen Kanet. R.S.H.M.
President, The Center of International Learning

"A must-read for anyone!"

"Too often we don't take the time to really listen and understand what our friends, colleagues, or family are saying to us. Are You Really Listening? should be required reading for anyone who wants to listen properly and profoundly. It is an essential guide to the skills of listening, understanding, and being understood. The book reaffirms that good communication lies at the heart of successful relationships. This is a must-read for anyone!

James O'Donnell. Managing Director
Head of U.S. Equities, Citigroup

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