We Really Need to Talk

We Really Need to Talk

Steps to Better Communication 

Author: Paul J. Donoghue

Author: Mary E. Siegel

Price: $16.95

Format: Paperback

Pages: 128

Trim size: 5.5 x 8.5 inches

ISBN: 978-1-933495-23-1

Imprint: Sorin Books

On-sale date: September 17, 2010

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In We Really Need to Talk: Steps to Better Communication Paul J. Donoghue and Mary E. Siegel, bestselling authors of Sick and Tired of Feeling Sick and Tired, expertly guide readers past the pitfalls of poor interaction and offer six steps to communication for healthy, honest, and constructive relationships with spouses, family, friends, and coworkers.

Every day we talk to convey information, clarify responsibilities, smooth difficult situations, and encourage others. Words can create deep emotional intimacy with spouses and friends, but often our words seem to thwart true communication rather than sustain it. Psychologists Paul J. Donoghue and Mary E. Siegel, longtime counselors and experts in communication, walk readers through some of the most frequent mistakes we make in talking to one another and offer simple practical corrections.

Building on the insights contained in their best-selling book Are You Really Listening?, Donoghue and Siegel guide readers through engaging real-life stories, including the boss who needs to advise a failing employee, the parent whose daughter flouts curfew, the wife who wants to go back to school but thinks her husband will not approve, and many more. With clarity and humor, they encourage readers to pursue healthier and more satisfying relationships with six steps toward clear, honest, and effective self-expression.



"It requires courage to be honest, but it also requires skill. Drs. Donoghue and Siegel teach in a deeply human way the skills needed to communicate with genuine love."

Archbishop Desmond Tutu, Winner of the Nobel Peace Prize and author of Made for Goodness

"Postively transformed."

"The face of our world can be positively transformed by learning but a few new communication skills—this book is brimming with them! It is like having kind, yet clear, mentors present to help make all of our relationships even better."

Robert J. Wicks, Author of Riding the Dragon

"A very special book."

"I am a clinical social worker and I am always seeking resources on interpersonal communication. I have not read a book in recent memory that is as straightforward, comprehensive, and clear as We Really Need to Talk. I know it will be helpful to professionals, families and couples. This is a very special book."

Don Marshall, Executive Director, The Charlton School

"Sense of empowerment."

"This book is a homage to the ability of every human being to communicate effectively in order to change the world for the better. By applying Drs. Donoghue and Siegel’s analysis and advice, the reader is left with a sense of empowerment based on the ability to turn a dreaded sense of “we need to talk” to an empowering conviction that it is good to talk."

Nicola Riley, Professor, University of Bremen

"Invaluable primer."

"An invaluable primer for understanding human communication. This book will help me, and I trust it will help every reader, to transition in relationships from fear to trust, from defensiveness to openness, and from stagnation to growth."

Len DeConstanzo, Managing Director, Northwestern Financial Network

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